Its natural that every couple has to deal with relationship problems from time to time. When problems do arise dont try to leave or run away this never fixes the problem that you are facing.
When people start to have relationship problems they tend to make things much more difficult than they need to be. Its not really that hard to identify the problem and work together to fix itas long as you are working together. This is a common problem, one partner wont commit to make the changes needed to make the relationship better.
No matter how hard it may be to hear, if that is the case in your relationship then you have no choice but to end itunless you are willing to stay in a bad relationship. It will take both of you working together to make things better and if one partner is unwilling to work at it, nothing will change.
If the two of you are willing to try to make things better, together, then here is a list of some tips that may help you out:
1. One of the most important elements in any good relationship is the ability to communicate well. That doesnt mean that you know how to talk, it means that you know the best way to get your point across without being mean and spiteful. Its not just about what you say but how you say it. Its also about how well you listen. Are you really hearing what the other person is trying to say, or are you just hearing the words without looking deeper to the true meaning?
Most of us arent poets, and sometimes things dont come out the right way. Being a good listener means not jumping down your partners throat when they say something wrong, it means trying to understand their point of view and realizing that even though you may not agree with them that they have the right to feel the way they feel and they want your understanding. Dont forget, some day the shoe will be on the other foot, and youll want to try to explain how youre feeling to your partner, youll want them to listen to you, right?
2. Dont hold your partner up to a higher standard than you hold yourself to. For example, if you dont want your partner to go out clubbing with their friends, you shouldnt either. If you want your partner to be a better housekeeper, you should pitch in and help. So many of us are great at telling our partners what they are doing wrong, but we arent nearly as good at honestly facing up to our own shortcomings. Maybe if you spent a little more time making sure you were being the best person you could be, you wouldnt get so frustrated with the failings of your partner.